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aida tanglao IF THIS were true or accurate, the one who did this must be really sick: Fetus found inside airplane's lavatory (news on ABS-CBN Interactive). Yesterday there was a similar news item in the US where a young mother of twins chose to leave this earth after feeling guilty for depriving her twin fetuses of their lives. This kind of events affects us. This kind of news makes us reflect. Why has the world gone so mad? Why do such social sicknesses break out? Genocide, democracy gone amok, not tribal war says an international policy specialist of the events in Africa, in the Middle East, and Asia. There seems to be no shortage of sociopaths nowadays. People who should be commanding respect are being described as evil or as bitches in public. What about the bishops, cardinals, former presidents who say this and that to a whole adoring nation---a nation thirsting for spiritual strength---only to tell the opposite within twenty-four hours afterwards?

Who can the people turn to? Who can be trusted? They ask for change, because they do it all of the time. They change what they have expressed all the time. Poor Juan and Juana de la Cruz? Poor you. Juan and Juana do not believe you anymore. Change now may mean five hundred thousand pesos, one hundred thirty million dollars, big change. Dakal a sukli, dakal a barya. Now, the finger is shifted and pointed at ... The People. Blame the Masa. Who created the poor masa anyway. If this is the kind of environment that children have, why should we be shocked when that young girl with the last name Amper from Cebu took her life?

Now, young, teen mothers do this to their fetuses. Such violence, such terrorism begotten and nurtured by the adults. Where is our conviction? Social responsibility, coherence, and relevance? Coming out from whatever closet we are in, for truth, honesty and start the Jun Lozada way could make one become more focused and free. It will make us reconcile with ourselves. It will serve as our strong base and foundation so we will not fall and we will stay strong in the right way to freedom.

We should do what Archbishop Desmond Tutu and the rest of the South Africans did. But before that, there should be public confessions and admissions of guilt. A famous feminist once said that when there is still one woman who is being oppressed, women cannot be free. I say that when there is one Jun Lozada whose life is threatened, nobody can be safe. The right to life of all is threatened.

These days, with so many supposedly Christian denominations having been built and invented, when so many couples spend so much money in order to have children, undergoing painful processes to bear children, we wonder why others would commit such inhuman acts to innocent and helpless babies. One would then understand why so many couples, especially in America, take children to help and rear. I had students in another continent who lost their lives because of abortion. I thought girls who sleep in my class were plain lazy (as the stereotyping and misinformation by misguided persons said so). I did not know then that they were in the early stage of pregnancy. I learned later that many were lured or abused by adults that perhaps included some colleagues. Similar circumstances happened in Pampanga before I left.

Governments should put up more adoption institutions. Families should be encouraged to adopt children. I feel sad myself learning about the present unfortunate events, for I sometimes remind my children to take it easy in adopting children. I thought that they should have more time for themselves and their careers. They could contribute more to humanity with their talents in the arts, music, or science, and with their creativity in business organization and in medical and technical know-how. They could get rich if they wanted to. My youngest son has only been married for about four years, but he and his wife will have three kids soon. They have been taking classes and tests from government entities to qualify as foster and adoptive parents. A court judge recently decided that they could be given the right to adopt a baby (from the same mother of another toddler they already have who prefers not to keep her kids). Immigration policies not only favor families or siblings growing up together, they also accord the same consideration to adoptive parents. This son of mine who did not want to become a priest, because the vocation is tiring, has now taken what to many is also a very tiring role.

Seeing the tragic news of what poor young women do with their unwanted pregnancies made me realize how much help my said children are giving to some young souls and to humanity. May we have more foster, adoptive parents and adoption institutional systems everywhere. Wealth or richness is not only measured in numbers and figures that we have in financial institutions. Contributions to humanity and to civilization in terms of saving and helping souls in need and the happiness given to them is priceless and unquantifiable. Generosity engenders more peace and happiness and contentment. Take a minute or two of peace and quiet and think about it.

Jun Lozada is crying for help not for himself alone, but also for his five children and for the entire Filipino Family that includes Gloria Macapagal-Arroyo and all of us. What shall we do?

[About the author. Aida Tanglao is a U.S.-based Kapampangan Filipino American. She has lived and worked in different communities in Pampanga, Manila, and in Nigeria when the Philippines was under a regime of civil rights suppression. She studied in public and private Philippine institutions (Lourdes Elementary School, Holy Angel University, University of Sto. Tomas), went to graduate school at Angeles University Foundation, and attended local colleges in the U.S. She currently does "action research," and catches up on what she missed in the meagerly filled libraries in Pampanga, particularly at the Pampanga High School (formerly Jose Abad Santos High School) where she taught for more than a decade. At age 27, she became a single mother to five children; she is now a grandmother to eight. Her personal and educational backgrounds provide the impetus for her to reach out and help in instilling cultural, moral, and historical consciousness among her people and in advocating correct child rearing approaches. She has embraced into her motherhood and patriotic obligations working for the Filipino's aspirations to spiritual and human liberation and contentment.]

-Posted: 11:11 AM 2/27/08 | More of this author on eK!