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abel soto O RENI mu ring mapilan a catutuan a agyu cung isalita quecayu tungcul quing indredus, a metung a daque na ning bie ning metung tau, ning metung a comunidad, at quing mas malauac a saclo, ning metung a bansa:

Mayap ngan ing sablang catutuan, dapot e na balang catutuan dapat pang sasambitlan.

(All truth is good, but not all truth is good to say.)

(Mabuti ang lahat ng katotohanan, subalit hindi lahat ng katotohanan ay dapat ka pang may pagsabihan.)

Ing catutuan a simbitla mung miqui-marauac a intensiun, sasambuta'na ngan ing anggang calaraman a macalasun.

(A truth that is told with bad intent beats all the lies one can invent.)

(Ang katotohanang sinasambit ng may masamang hangarin ay nagagapi nito ang ano pa mang kasinungalinang mapang-alipin.)

Tama ang Biblia: "The truth will set you free," but it does end there. Indeed, the truth will really set us free, but first it will make us miserable.

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Ating metung a obispu queti quing Pampanga a minsan asabi na quing cayang homilia iti nang catutuan tungcul quing "sucal a lub":

"Ing sucal e sisinup, yuyugse ya."

Tutu pin naman. Mengari ya mu'ini quing indredus. Caibat mong tinipun nang tinipun, misan mu na la mu yugse quing dalan na ning bie, caibat mong pidala-dala quing quecang capilubluban. Cabang ing dapat sana silaban mu na quing sarili mung capilubluban ing anggang sucal a'ini, a ausan tamung indredus, at nung cabang sisiliban me iti nang sucal, icua mu mu namang mitau, metung mu ing buri nang sabian na niti: masucal ca naman pangatau a dapat ca mu naman ping masilab quing impiernung ica mu naman ing mapaliaring ginaua.

Ing indredus, macapagbulus... macabusbus pangatau, aliua mu quing pangatau na ning mai-indredus nune mas lalu na quing manindredus! Magbulus la pin sa at mangabusbus caladua ring taung ma-indredus! (Aray co!)

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May mga taong magaling magtsismis, na sa sobrang galing nila ay aakalain mong totoo ang lahat ng kanilang mga itsinitsismis. May mga taong magaling sa salita, magaling magsalita, at higit sa lahat, magaling magtagni-tagni ng mga salita para lamang mapaniwala nila ang ibang tao sa mga tsismis na kadalasan ay sila na lamang ang lumikha.

Kadalasan pa rin, ang mga tsimis ng mga taong ito ay binibihisan nila ng mga mapalamuti at mga mabubulaklak na mga salita upang sila ang magmukhang bida, magaling, at kaaya-aya sa mga tainga at mga mata ng kanilang mga tsinitsismisan, para lamang sa huli ay malalaman mo ang katotohanan na lahat halos ng kanilang mga itsinismis sa 'yo ay kasinungalingan o salungat o kabaligtaran sa dapat mong malaman at paniwalaan.

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A gossip is something that is told, blown out of proportion! Gossip is like a quicksand. It is very hard to do damage control once a gossip goes out of control from the big mouths of the gossipmongers.

A gossip, too, is far different from real stories that are founded on facts. A gossip is destructive; a story is constructive. But both gossip and story are powerful. Both have the innate power to either destroy or develop an individual. A gossip is usually motivated by negative intentions; a story is usually motivated by positive intentions. A story builds; a gossip butchers!

Each one of us has his/her own skeleton in the closet, except that others are quite good in hiding theirs, and a lot better in exposing other people's skeletons but becoming unmindful of their own skeletons.

Allow me to tell you this: No matter how dark the past may be that of a person you try to malign with gossips, it is usually the gossipmonger that burns in the hell of his/her own making and not the one who is being gossiped. Try to think about this fact.

It is not really very difficult at all to distinguish a real gossip from a truthful story. All you have to do is to listen to more than just the words of what is being told, to listen between the lines and to feel with your heart the context and subtext of what is being told to you, and then try to ask yourself what the intention of the gossipmonger could possibly be. And you'll know the real "why."

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Macapacaili la ring dacal a tau, dapot mas macasnuc la, a mas maralas rang paquialaman ing bie da ring aliuang tau dapot e ra naman paquialaman ing sarili rang bie. Nanu caya ing panandaman da nung ing bie ra yang paquialaman da mu naman ring aliua pang calupa rang mapaquialam?

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I still would like to end this writing on a positive note. Read on.

Stories in themselves are not at all bad. Jesus Himselfrecognized the strong affirmative power that lies in stories. He Himself used stories in order to convey the depths of His teachings. It is His parables that introduced and became the framework of His teachings.

Allow me to end this column of mine with a paragraph from a book of Sr. Carmen L. Caltagirone entitled "The Sacrament of Friendship":

"Another unique way by which God is revealed to us is through the sharing of personal stories... All of us carry within ourselves montage of personal stories. All those who have impacted our lives, those who have loved us and those who have refused to love us are within us. In each of us there lives a mother and a father, a betrayer, a childhood friend, a teacher. They are part of our story, and it is our story that gives shape to our lives. Personal stories are but another way that God chooses to bring us closer to Him. Our personal growth depends to some extent on how much in touch we are with our own stories. The deepest realities of human life cannot be defined in intellectual terms. We can, at best, touch on them through stories."


[About the author. Abel D. Soto took up his certificatory double major course in Creative Writing and Performing Arts at Centre for Arts Foundation, Inc. in Quezon City. He also finished the Managing the Arts Program at the Asian Institute of Management in Makati City. He is a resident of Bacolor, Pampanga.]

-Posted: 2:55 PM 4/1/12 | More of this author on eK!
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